A woman wants to Liked, Loved & Longed after. I believe these “L’s” stand in order. You could give a woman the
2nd “L”, but without the first “L”, is it the depth of love that she deserves till death do you part? Would you be seeing her as her heavenly father and husband does with all her greatness?
A woman wants to be Liked for all her uniqueness--the things that make her, her. The way she communicates, what she talks about, the giftings she possesses, her personaility, her essence. She wants to be loved for her depth, thoughts, desires and character—what she’s about. The more you Like her, the more she feels free to be even more “her”…to let God’s goodness come out of her even further.
A woman wants to be Loved…when your heart is excited about her and good and devoted. She wants you to be
1 Corinthians chapter 13 to her with the consistent actions of love, the manifestation of God’s love. She wants to see that you will sacrifice for her in whatever ways that comes about.
A woman wants to be Longed for. She wants to know that you only have eyes for her. (Keep those eyes in holiness though until you are married to her.) She wants to KNOW that she’s got your physical interest. You’re delighted about her outer beauty, which is in the eyes of her maker and her beholder, you. Every woman wants to be endeared as a captivating princess.
These are the foundations I beleive a wise woman wants in a relationship leading to marriage. And she wants to be able to reciprocate to the man the same.
Kiss the Son
Don’t cause me to plead for your affections.
Lavish me with your pouring, giving heart
Pour onto me
I want that so much from you
Tell me that you love me
Sing unto me your sweetness, for you are
Put your praises forward to me. I receive them like a gift you’ve shopped
long for and spent much on
They mean everything to me
So many areas in life to hold back on, but not on me
I encourage you to give all to me
And in return …I am like a devout lover who does not hold back.
I make promises that will be kept
I can hold you like a tight envelope and seal myself around you
And in our time of sweetness, an exchange will come
Your thoughts, emotions for my peace and hope
Your emptiness and longing for my filling and love
Stay and linger in my aroma
Have my presence
Let me see your smile when you finally have my love for you on your mind
Let me put my adoration for you on your face
Carry yourself like you have my power, because I am accessible to you
A love relationship
Kiss the Son
You can find this writing in the Marry Me! book. Pg. 280
One thing my former spouse taught me is that you never realize how much your back needs to be scratched until you scratch it. You’re moving along very busily in life with no thoughts of the skin cells on your back. Then one day, someone scratches your upper and lower back and you say, “Ahhhhh….” Then they scratch your neck, shoulders and arms and you think, “This is soooo good! I had no idea! How have I been missing this?”
Fulfillment is much the same with good, Christian fellowship. Some of you may be tiptoeing onto this page…just a little curious, yet avoiding fellowship with other Christian singles. You may say, “I don’t need a singles group. I’m fine on my own. I’ve never had good experiences with that before.”
Just to tell you though, good fellowship is like a good back scratch. It can leave you so satisfied and fulfilled and loved that you won’t know how you ever did without it…or without us.
Try a Singles fellowship, one that is pursuing God in the things they say and do. Try it several times. Give us a chance to scratch your back with friendship, laughing together, worshipping together and experiencing God and life together.
Wisdom & encouragement to share with others!
Denise Flynn writes about Singleness, Relationships, Goal Obtainment & the Christian walk. Order