A lady shared her circumstance with me. When she was in her former relationship, she was spurring the relationship onto marriage more than the man was. She was planting verbal seeds for marriage.
Ladies, you are some of the best leaders…some of the best organizers and orchestrators of wonderful things. What an incredible trait! But don’t let that leadership trait show up full force in a relationship that hasn’t gotten off the ground yet or that doesn’t seem to be crossing the finish line when you want it to.
Ladies, sometimes you may feel like “Don’t make me lead…cause I will.” You’ve got the wherewithal. But curtail, curtail. Give up the lead role. Start a business or a ministry or call to action for something else, but don’t be the “call to action” woman in a relationship.
You want to be the leading lady in his life…the one he’s chasing after, not the leader. If you’ve been round the mountain with a man in a relationship for years, okay, maybe you have to tell him it’s time for a choice one way or the other. That should be the limit of your trying to move something on or off the fence. The man has to be the driving force for action. They may not even realize it, but this is the position where they are most fulfilled.
Jesus loved us first. “We love because he first loved us” (1st John 4:19). And boy, does God love you!
Wisdom & encouragement to share with others!
Denise Flynn writes about Singleness, Relationships, Goal Obtainment & the Christian walk. Order